“Listen with the ear of your heart.
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Put down messages—belittling, ridiculing, disapproving
- You shouldn’t feel that way
- You have some strange ideas
- You must be kidding
Comparing
When that happened to me I handled it by....
Judging, criticizing, blaming
- I can’t believe that
- You might not be having these problems now if you had...
Preaching, moralizing
- It’s for your own good
- There’s more fish in the sea
Diverting, avoiding, changing the subject
- Forget it
- That reminds me...
Rejecting
- Let’s not discuss that any longer
- I have to leave now, I can’t take this conversation
Challenging
- You couldn’t have done that
- You don’t really mean that
Defending
- That person has an excellent reputation
- But that doctor is very competent